To me, it’s quite surprising that even decades after the pill and the sexual revolution people seem to think women are, to a certain degree, asexual beings. How else could it be explained people are so surprised about “porn for women”? (Gods, my father could be reading this post, I probably should vanish into earth right now, but I still think it’s an important topic.)
I have to admit I sometimes find it difficult to act on my need as well. Only recently I have visited a sex shop for the first time (and I’m over 30 already, mind you). It was an interesting experience (and one I will be having again for sure), but also quite sobering. While there are some areas in the shop I found entertaining or interesting, the large section of porn movies (or the magazines and books) did not exactly fall into it. It’s quite obvious most of it is directed at men and nobody else. Why?
This brings me back to the topic as a such. “Porn for women” is exactly what the name suggests, of course: pornography done in a way to be pleasing and stimulating for women. I know that’s not too easy – women don’t ‘function’ like men, as far as their lust is concerned. We’re a lot harder to please. Still, I read and contribute to an adult thread in my favourite forum and there porn movies are discussed quite vividly (together with strange sex toys and other adult topics). Quite some of those discussing them are women (which suggests they’re actually watching the movies, too). But finding something that’s directed at women? No fat chance. (Not even a slim one.)
On the other hand, we’re living in a free market economy, aren’t we? That means the demands of the market dictate the products and services offered (if I remember my lessons about it correctly). About 50 percent of mankind (even a bit more) are women. Quite a lot of them live in ‘free’ countries in which they can speak their mind and basically do as they please. They earn money (though less than men, on the average), they spent it. But not on porn. Why?
For one thing, there’s not much around which women would find worth their money and time. If there’s nothing offered, then you don’t buy anything – sounds obvious, doesn’t it? That surprises me a bit – especially the porn industry usually reacts rather quickly to the demands of the market. So why are they leaving out 50 percent of their possible customers? Search me…
The second reason, I guess, is the upbringing women go through. We are not taught to voice our needs (especially when it comes to such a difficult topic as sex). And if we don’t say what we want, how can we get it?
Women definitely are harder to please when it comes to porn. They need the stimulation of the fantasy far more than the stimulation of the actual picture. In addition, the porn movies usually depict women as the objects of sexual wants and needs. (You could argue, though, that the male actor in such a movie is an object as well, after all he’s just doing what the male viewer wants to do.) Objects do rarely get granted any wishes. And today’s society is hardly going to objectify men, just to please women. Sad but true.
If you know what to look for (try googling “clitrature”, for instance), porn for women is there. It just isn’t as obvious and far spread as the kind for men.